...About the Low Standards of Black Women

Well this is actually news to me. I was recently informed by one of my sisters of the Caucasian persuasion that when it comes to choosing a life mate Black women set their standards entirely too low. According to this sister we put up with any and everything for the sake of having a man that we can call our own. According to her this is why we have so much infidelity and such disrespect in general from our men.

Now, I don't know what sisters she's been hanging out with but this one doesn't play that. I'm happily married to a black man that I have borne 3 children for. Not only does he treat me like the queen that I am but he's raising our sons to give me the same respect that he does and more. Had I allowed myself to be treated any kind of way in the beginning of my 12 year relationship, then I'm sure my life would be very different now.

It's just human nature that people in general, not just men and not just Blacks, will treat you the way you train them to treat you. In the past when I've discussed my husband's habits with previous girlfriends, the conversation didn't last very long because we are actually discussing 2 different people; who he is to me and who he was to her.

As women if we carry ourselves like goddesses, we'll be treated accordingly. Now, don't get me wrong, I'm not saying we should be arrogant or conceited. What I'm saying is take care of you. Be responsible for your own finances, feelings and well being. Don't look for a man to rescue you from yourself. I never needed a man to complete me but I did choose a mate that compliments me. There is a difference.

Men don't use that last paragraph as an excuse to lay up on your behinds and let a woman who clearly has her act together take care of you. She doesn't need to adopt a child, she's needs a man. If you're gonna be a liability, then you're gonna be on the first thing smoking outta there. In other words if you don't "man up" you'll find a pair of 3 inch heels in the back of your neck. A strong woman needs a strong man and if you don't bring it, you'll get your hat and your ass brought to you!

So to all you weak sisters out there that are giving us a bad name, backbones are on sale at Walmart BOGO Free. Get some!